Category Archives: Hair, Natural Hair, Styling, Coloring, Cut

Let’s Wig Out…

“Outre Big Beautiful Hair 4A kinky” is her name but I’m going call her “Nina Jane” and by “her” I mean the wig.  Yes ma’am that’s exactly what’s going on in these 3 separate videos of beautiful women who absolutely took fierceness to another level!  

If you’re anything like me you haven’t  crossed over to the wig family…yet.  However, I was so over sew ins and so was my coin purse, but all the way here for this new wave of clip ins and so was my budget, and thought I was content at least until I met Nina Jane via YT.  

I’m natural 7 years now and counting but I love versatility, but I’m cautious. My round face and slanted eyes, though pretty, makes throwing caution to the wind a challenge at times.  

However, if I can go from this 

To slayage

Then hunty 

I’m all in! 

This is Ms. Shauntania Beckford and she slayed the hell out of this wig by Outre.  Her video is listed below along with 2 other beautiful wig whisperers! 


Baby oil vs. Something Better

Meet Meet Chinelo Chidozie and Ndidi Obidoa 

So I recently found out that my beloved baby oil is a derivative of petroleum just like Vaseline.  I stopped using Vaseline years ago because of it’s petroleum properties and yes petroleum as in “petro on the go” gas o line…but geesh not my baby url…

Baaaaybay bay bay when I tell you a squirt in your bath water or slather it on after a shower while still damp will give you everlasting life I MEAN EXACTLY THAT! My skin stay soft as a baby’s toosh, the scent lady forever and it’s light and airy, my kids skin is so soft and let’s just say my husband loves the scent and the suppleness of it everywhere baby url touches me, but of course in the information era they’re the joy killers!  I swear they just don’t want me to be great! 

Well I’m weak when it comes to my favs and no I’ve never heard of any deaths contributed to baby url and I can’t say I will turn my back on it forever but I’m open to trying something new like… 

yes, these are the same sisters that created…

I’ll keep you posted,  I’ll be ordering really soon.  I can’t wait for their products to make it to the stores (hopefully).  Convenience always plays a part, but I won’t let that deter me from supporting small businesses and/or investing in more earth friendly organic products.  And if it’s a good product then I’ll be a customer for LIFE!  That’s just how I roll 


Prom Season Bitches (pictures)

Yes its that time again and these prom guys and gals make my prom look like little house on all the prairies LOL! 

These young people are killing the game with beauty and fashion!  You been on  YT lately?  Geesh they will teach you how to start off like a basic chick and turn into a Beyonce in 15 seconds using an eyeliner, tape and a tube of lipstick…I tell no lies.

Now there are cases where it’s just too much, in a bad way.  These girls/guys are too grown and mannish at events like prom and the parents are low key broke putting on damn near a wedding trying to please brats and well we’ve seen//heard the horror stories smh.  

However, then you have too much in a good way…like my niece Tijera.  Her mom, my sissy is a master at getting the best for less, so no matter what you see in the pictures, no matter how glamorous, it was within a serious budget!  Not because she couldn’t afford to pay more but “why pay more when you can pay less” 

Thank You, Thank You I perform every Wednesday at the coco cabana between 12-2p LOL 

No in all seriousness you have to put things into perspective and that includes cost.  Tonya has a great career working for one of the TOP colleges in the US and when I say top I mean seriously the TOP! However, that doesn’t stop her from being a pro at being fiscally responsible! Especially being a successful (single) mom in College to complete her own degree.  She can out bargain/hustle any NY hustler on any day.  Hell most times I think she is one LOL! 

Back to my neice, she is the epitome of grace, beauty, intelligence, smarts and lady like behavior.  I’m talking down to her outstanding gpa, her singing beautifully at social events and talent shows, to doing normal school activities like cheerleading, to being an awesome friend.  I’m talking just a well rounded kid.  And yes she’s college bound and did I mention she can stomp with the big dogs when it comes to a sense of humor, common sense and wit. Which with crazy aunts in her life she was bound to have a little crazy in her.  I’m just sayin’ proud is not enough to describe how I feel so I won’t try.  I’ll just say keep up the great work.  

Tijera is not the first great kid there’s plenty of greatness bound young women and men out there just waiting to make a difference in this world, that we should hear more about but she’s my family so that’s where my attention lies. 

Oh and it’s two of them!  Yes in 2 years I’ll be back showcasing my other neice Trinity who is equally as fly! 

Man! Shout out to my sissy Tonya for raising such well rounded young ladies who will be a constant staple in my young girl’s life serving as an example and mentor.  

And can we shout out Tijera’s prom date!  Let’s face it at events like these it’s usually the woman that’s the attention getter and this is no different BUT he did the damn thing becoming her fashion equal! BRAVO! 

Now breath slowly buckle up sip your drink and be prepared to be WOW’d at all this fabulousness! Honey chicka boom boom! Get into it


Pure Beauty! She Didn’t Let Alopecia Define Her 

In this world I believe we teach people more often than not to be victims.  To let life’s hiccups define us and control how we move forward in our daily lives.  I hate it and I try to demolish that god awful mentality every chance I get including in myself.

Well this beauty is my SHERO! She took the crown for “crazy hair day” 


Learn something

Hey y’all! Let’s sip and chat a bit.  

Far too often women with afro textured hair are accused of wearing weaves and wigs because they desire long [straight] hair…screeeeeeeeeech ✋🏾  nothing can be further from the truth as this article describes beautifully in detail with receipts (pictures).  In fact most times women with afro textured haired e.g. kinky, coily, tightly curled etc. have anywhere from 2-10 inches on average of hair bundled up in each coil. 

The natural state of our God given coils are wrapped up into beautiful patterns that’s often mistaken for untamed, “napppy”, unattractive, unprofessional mess, when in actuality our hair grows towards the sun, defines itself and is gracefully and uniquely disrespectful.  

I never understood why does someone else gets to define what beauty is by their warped, man made, manufactured, or often misconstrued redundant definition of beauty? In fact how do you tell someone that the way their hair grows out their head is wrong or ugly…I mean really think about that for a moment…insane right? Yes, I agreee. 

NOTE: I’m not talking about unhealthy hair.  I’m speaking about Afro textured hair that is loved and embraced with TLC.

So the the next time you see a woman with tight coils or an afro of ANY texture (know that it’s not just kinky hair that’s afro textured) please oh please know she’s probably hiding a goldmine in each curl and if she stretched a strand of hair it might shock you into silence. 

1. Stop assuming we are bald headed under weaves and wigs, 9 times out of 10 it’s actually the very opposite 

2. Stop assuming when you see an afro that that’s the actual length of our hair

3. Stop assuming when we press, relax, flat iron our natural hair we all have extensions, many times it’s our actual length in its straightened state 

4. Stop thinking all curls, kinks, coils are the same.  Just as anyone else our coils are also unique to each person 

5. Stop judging afro textured hair and dismissing our hair because it doesn’t meet this manufactured standard of beauty.  I would never tell a red head curly girl because you’re not blonde straight hair’d you’re not pretty enough. 

Let’s embrace all beauty.  The article is s great read with visuals…get into it!  Let’s discuss.  I would love to hear from you. 😊


Hair Cocktail #155,555,675,457 Let’s Color 

So after a nice glass of wine last night it made me notice a few grays. Nothing new.  Thanks to my father’s DNA everyone on that side of my family grays really really early…like middle school early. 

Noooo I didn’t have a head full of grays running around school but one or two here and there, yes.  However, well into my 20s I was on my way to that salt and pepper life. Great thing is it’s not that yellowish, greenish gray it’s a really crisp white gray which tends to be pretty against our jet black hair…but unless you’re into that look (and I was not/am not) you’re reaching for the nearest box of dye by your 30s or paying a ridiculously amount to your stylist to erase all signs of gray invaders.

Now on me the gray itself is just as I described, crisp white against beautiful jet black hair, but my personal opinion…it ages me and ummmmm NOPE! 

Well to say the least permanent box dye has become my true bff.  I don’t have a favorite brand, but the last 2 years it’s been Clairol because it’s a decent brand, staple in the dye industry, does the job well and easy on the pockets. Ahhhh shit let’s be honest, no shade to the professionals but I save about $45-$60 every 4-6 weeks. You do the damn numbers.


I’m dying 1x a month no more than 6 weeks I’m correcting nature’s mistake.  Now this is where you come in, ADD OILS(s) to your box dye!!!!!  Yes ma’am! With permanent dye those cuticles lift up and deposit the color deep in the strands and if you color as often as I do, then you know we have to protect our strands.  


I pop open the box add the developer then add a lil oil.  My favs are evoo & avocado oil.  I use this oil mix for my hair and skin. Like cooking I don’t measure, I just take my squirt bottle and give a good squeeze, then apply dye as instructed.


Because of this method I don’t have to work so hard to add moisture back to my hair in the days to come. No breakage or mushy mess.  And it’s never NOT colored my hair as promised and to my complete satisfaction. Well my work here is done.  Love you too! 


PSA: I don’t go crazy with colors because I’m NOT a professional and as much as I love YT it is not a beauty college or salon (I’m not sure I believe that about YT but we’ll say it to be pc LOL!) I think if I want to really get down with different colors especially if it requires lifting this black I then would visit a professional. 

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